How To Respond When You’re Facing A Crisis (Including Job Loss and Possible Deportation) Part 1

I thought I had it made.

I did everything right… Or so I thought.

But the email I just read – disproved me on this one.

“We are sorry Mr. Arkin, but the job we had initially hired you for has fallen through…”

This is a Problem…

A little over 3 months ago I moved to Kyoto, the historical capital of Japan. I found a job, a place to live, and an incredible martial arts dojo!

I was following my dream.

Then 2 months ago I was told that my job “had fallen through”.

This was a slight problem. And by “slight” I mean massive. 

No Job = No Visa.

Here’s the problem – if I don’t have a job, I don’t have a visa.

If I don’t have a visa, I can’t legally live in Japan.

Uh Oh..

I know that historically ninjas have been identified as criminals – but this isn’t the route I was hoping to take.

I assumed my visa would run out in about 60 days.

My concern is that my name would pop up as an “alert” in some computer at a Japanese Immigration Office.

Of course, I don’t really know this -but really I’d rather not find out.

The Response

At the time (2 months ago) I thought about sharing this challenge with all of you. But I didn’t like that idea.

My policy over here at the 30 Year Old Ninja is that I follow my dream, I learn from it, then I share it.

I don’t talk about the struggle while it’s happening if it’s not to your benefit. But after living it (and surviving it) I’m thrilled to be able to share the strategies I used to get through this experience.

The 4 Steps to Responding to a Crisis

1. Establish a “Thinking Time” with a deadline.

As soon as I received the email I recognized I had a problem.

I didn’t want to panic, but it was difficult.

I committed to “not take any action” until Monday morning (I received the email Friday afternoon). I would use the weekend to sit and reflect on the issue.

Here is the key – I set a deadline for thinking.

Because I set a deadline I wasn’t concerned about “I must do something now!”. This allowed me to gain some calm in the midst of the storm.

I took some quiet walks, got feedback from those I trust.

The amount of time you give yourself to “think” varies on the situation. The key is to take a step back and recognize the challenges you are facing.

2. Develop a weekly plan

Come Monday morning I put together a plan. Within this plan included every step I needed to take.

I wrote out exactly what I wanted.

Here I was in a pretty serious moment- If I didn’t find a job soon I could be illegally residing in Japan. It would be easy to make some rash decisions that would have some long term consequences.

For example – finding full time work isn’t too difficult as an English teacher. But with my dream – full time work doesn’t allow me the necessary time to train (in aikido).

There are numerous jobs out there that pay horrible wages and treat their employees like dirt. Often these companies have you sign a 1 year contract and then use “the visa” as leverage to keep you. It would be easy for me to settle.

There are dangers out there – if we don’t keep a clear head.

I identified the following 2 things:

a) What I didn’t know. b) The actions I must take.

What I did not know became part of the actions I had to take and learn.

I wrote down a list of actions. I focused on process over outcomes. So although my goal was to “find a job” the action items focused on the process:

  • Apply for 10 jobs
  • Develop Cover Letter for new jobs
  • Call Immigration and discuss “how to get a visa”
Notice that although my situation was a little scary the actions are all quite simple.

After I had my list of action items I developed a weekly plan. I simply looked at my action list, then I asked myself “What must I do this week?”

Then I wrote them out into my weekly planner.

3. Identify my “Highest Value Activities” Each morning and do them. 

Every morning I looked at my weekly plan and asked myself “What is the single most important activity I can do today?” Initially it was “Apply for jobs.” But as time moved forward it was “prepare for interview.” Or “Get necessary documents organized for interview.”

Once I finished my highest value activity I would go back to my list and ask the exact same question “What is the most important thing I can do next?” Then I would do it.

This process virtually gauranteed that I always did the most important work.

It is so darn important that you identify your most important activities. If you do this and follow through with them on a daily basis- crisis or not – you will soar! I am sure of this :) .

4. Do A Weekly Review – Analyze, adjust, and follow through. 

Every Monday I would sit down for 60 minutes and do an analysis of my previous week. I pulled out my previous weeks plan and studied it like a coach looks over a film tape.

I asked and answered the following three questions:

1. What behaviors must I keep doing to achieve my goals? 2. What behaviors must I stop doing to achieve my goals? 3. What new behaviors must I start doing to achieve my goals?

Then based on these answers I wrote up the current weeks plan.

Then I rinsed and repeated steps 3 and 4 until I accomplished my goals.

The Results

Over the course of 30 days I was able to find new work – Actually I found 2 jobs.

It took about 2 months but my visa came through as well – I am 100 percent legal in Japan for another 3 years.

Each and every step above allowed me to remain calm and focused throughout this entire process.

I hope this post gives you inspiration and practical application to deal with a crisis or struggle you are currently facing.

For the comments:

How can you use the steps in this post with your current situation (Please don’t hold back this can be really helpful for other readers!)? 

or

Maybe your current situation doesn’t “fit” – please share it and I’ll give you some thoughts on how I would approach it. 

 

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  • Suzanne Stormon

    Izzy, you just gave us a plan for turning a crisis into a non-crisis. How we see a situation and if we define it as a crisis makes all the difference. It looks like you turn most crises into problems to be solved and approach them that way. How very ninja of you!

    • http://www.30yearoldninja.com/ Izmael Arkin

      I like how you put that Suzanne :) . And of course you get extra points for saying it was “ninja” of me. I give you an “Electronic H-Five” for this comment :) .

  • Fabio

    Hello Izzy

    Its really hard not to panic in crisis situations. But it’s the first thing we have got to do before anything else, right??. keep calm and carry on!!

    The process you described above is really effective. I am learning it right now. I never realized that stablishing a thinking time could help so much. I am very impulsive, specially during a crisis.

    Here, in your blog, I am learning how to take action in an effective way, identifying the most important activities for the moment. Thank you buddy!!

    • http://www.30yearoldninja.com/ Izmael Arkin

      Fabio you have no idea (well maybe you do- I don’t know) how much this comment means to me.

      I am so excited that you are taking action and growing! That is what it’s all about, right? If we can keep learning, evolving and becoming better people along the journey the sky is truly the limit.

      In particular if we can learn to handle a big crisis then we really can be unstoppable!!!

      I’m so glad the site is helping you.

      Thanks for taking the time to leave such a nice comment :) .

  • http://www.psycholocrazy.com/ jamie flexman

    I always enjoy reading your posts. You explain your thought processes really well and it’s quite inspiring. I would think though that being stuck in Japan without a Visa is a ‘sink or swim’ situation that forced you into action. I like how you set out a plan and tackle the most pressing issues first. That’s something I am trying hard to do, but it’s taking time.

    Oh yeh, I’ve been meaning to ask. Do you create those cartoons yourself?

    • http://www.30yearoldninja.com/ Izmael Arkin

      Hi Jamie :) .

      Thanks for the kind words – I’m thrilled you find the content useful.

      You are right, it definitely takes time to learn how to focus on the right problems. I consider it is a skill that can be developed with practice.

      In regards to the cartoons- Yes I make them all myself :) .

  • Stuart Zahn

    Your discipline is greatly appreciated. I learned a lot about how worrying is simply useless in these situations.

    • http://www.30yearoldninja.com/ Izmael Arkin

      Awesome Stuart – I’m very happy that you found the content helpful.

      Worrying is very dangerous because it is so debilitating. I hope you had a day filled with positive actions :) .

  • Erik

    I’m glad I read this post. The stress from facing a crisis can be overwhelming and seeing how you implemented these four steps has inspired me to take action and respond to my own crisis rather than react to it.

    • http://www.30yearoldninja.com/ Izmael Arkin

      That is awesome Erik :) .

      Facing a crisis is always tough. If it were easy it wouldn’t be a crisis, right?

      The big thing is finding a way to get some calm in the midst of the storm. In that calm we can develop the right mindset to focus on the issues we ned to tackle.

      Thanks for taking the time to comment.

  • Keith Clarke

    Hey Izzy,

    Sound advice (as always). I like what you said about setting a deadline to take the pressure ‘off’ – rather than a deadline becoming an additional pressure. Nice flip. Think I had a little paradigm shift there :)

    • http://www.30yearoldninja.com/ Izmael Arkin

      Yo Keith :) .

      It’s funny how you put that – I had to read it a few times because I had forgotten about that other type of pressure. Though, it wasn’t many years ago when I was teaching in Los Angeles and feared deadlines! But now, it’s the opposite I love them! In fact if someone doesn’t give me one I force it out of them.

      I love deadlines because they allow me to plan my time accordingly.

      Glad to see you around again man. I hope your doing alright. Feel free to shoot me an email anytime man. Definitely would love to know how you’re doing.

  • http://twitter.com/MsStJames Stephanie St. James

    Izzy this is so great! Obvi it was terrible that you may have lost your visa and would have to leave. But it’s great that you found a way to not stress and solve your problemo! So great! Enjoy reading al your posts and happy for you that you can remain in Japan! Woohoo! We were just in Kauai and I was saying… we’re halfway to Japan let’s go… but we had a trip planned to Portland with another family member so boooo No Japan for now! Keep doing all the wonderful things you do!

    • http://www.30yearoldninja.com/ Izmael Arkin

      Hi Stephanie :) .

      Well that makes two of us because I am quite happy as well. Japan is such an interesting country. I’m really happy to have the opportunity to live here much longer.

      Well if you ever do make it to the other side of the world let me know. I would love to show you and your family around Kyoto :) .

  • http://twitter.com/GwynMinerva Minerva Gwyn

    Thanks for the post, Izzy and congratulations on your blog! :) I just found out about it after reading one of your posts for Tiny Buddha. Your tips are really useful, and now that I’ve been reading personal growth blogs for a couple of months, those are things I’ve been doing, which have been quite helpful in keeping me on the right track. I’m still in the middle of the storm (ie trying to find a job), but at least now I’m focused, I’m fighting all negative thoughts and emotions, etc, and as a consequence, I’m doing more interviews and I’m feeling less pressured.

    One of the things I did for a long time, even until recently, was to ignore the situation I was in. Instead of focusing, planning, being practical, I would panic and pretend the problems didn’t exist (by reading fiction, watching movies, and other distractions). I was already looking for a job then, of course, but my mind wasn’t focused on it, it was instead focused on denial. I think that’s maybe the most important aspect of what you wrote about here: keep the mind focused on what you must accomplish. We create our realities after all, right? :)

    Man, I wish you all the luck and I’m very happy for you! I love Japanese culture, and I plan on visiting the country someday. Thanks for sharing your experiences! :)

    • http://www.30yearoldninja.com/ Izmael Arkin

      Hi Minerva :) .

      I’m so sorry I didn’t reply sooner. One of the things you have identified here is really powerful: You know your own form of denial. It’s kind of scary when we discover these because it forces us to take action or own the fact that we are holding ourselves back.

      Focus is crazy powerful. The key is to identify what we want in life – then relentlessly stop at nothing to make it happen :) .

  • http://twitter.com/BrightLilSocks Iris Barzen

    Thanks so much for sharing, Izzy. I can really relate to your situation as I’m in a very similar one, there’s just now expiring visa included. :) I also desperately need to find a job and am panicking a little. Just like you I was thinking about making it a challenge on my blog to keep it real. I’ve decided not to do it for the same reasons you have: Don’t bother them with the struggles until there’s a lesson you can share.
    I’m not there yet, but I’m finding strategies that help me move forward and not get overwhelmed. Thanks so, so, so much for sharing your process, I’ll definitely give it a try.

    • http://www.30yearoldninja.com/ Izmael Arkin

      Awesome Iris :) . I think one thing to always remember is that “it is all a process”. In other words you don’t have to find the magical perfect greatest job in the world today. You just need to find something better than where your currently at.

      Always commit to constant improvement. If you get a little bit better every single day then you really can conquer the world :) .

      • http://twitter.com/BrightLilSocks Iris Barzen

        It took me a while to understand Disqus, so I haven’t read your response until now… *facepalm*

        To update you: I actually do have a job now. I work as a coaching assistant for a couple hours per week. This is the first job I have that’s actually meaningful to me. It’s not enough to support myself yet, but it is a major step and I’m really excited about it. :)